Do you know someone who stutters?
Maybe a friend, a loved one, or a colleague.
Or perhaps you’re just generally a conscientious person who wants to make things easier for the people around you.
You might even be looking for speech therapy treatment for stuttering that you could recommend to them.
So chances are you’re going to encounter somebody who stutters sooner or later.
Today we’ll take a look at what stuttering is, how you can help someone who has one, and what NOT to do.
What’s Happening When Somebody Stutters?
A stutter is a speech disorder that involves frequent and significant problems with the fluency and flow of speech.
It’s considered a fluency disorder, an umbrella term that also includes cluttering disorder.
People who stutter know what they want to say but struggle to say it.
It can sound like the repetition of a word or sound over and over again.
When a person stutters, it might seem like they’re hesitating because they don’t know what they’re saying, or they’re unsure of what to say.
This isn’t always true.
You can be sure that they’re checking their speech and they’re worried about how they say something.
They may also talk quickly.
People who stutter can often struggle to say their name.
If you’re about to meet new people, ask the person who stutters privately beforehand if they want to introduce themselves or if they’d like you to introduce them.
If you are in a group setting and everyone is talking, make sure you can see the person who stutters.
If you notice that they might want to say something but aren’t able to easily join the conversation, invite them to share their thoughts, even if it interrupts the flow of discussion.
Doing this shows them that their input is valued and may help them to feel more included.
How To Support Somebody Who Stutters
There are many ways to support someone who stutters.
Here are some tips to try.
1. Be Patient
Give the person time to say what they want to say, even if you think you know what they’re going to say.
Patience is key, and it demonstrates that you’re still listening to them.
If you seem impatient, the person may find your response discouraging and think that you aren’t interested in talking to them.
Letting them know that you’re interested in hearing their contribution goes a long way to encouraging them to share their thoughts with you.
2. Recognize Their Triggers
Sometimes, stressful situations can make stuttering worse.
Situations where stutterers have to meet new people, deal with a different environment than usual, or have to speak on the phone can trigger a more intense bout of stuttering.
Knowing a person’s triggers means that you can offer to help them navigate more stressful environments.
If you know they are going to go into a potentially triggering situation, ask them what you can do to help, and let them know you’re there for them.
3. Avoid Making Obnoxious Jokes
Don’t joke about a person’s stutter or speech patterns.
They might already feel nervous, embarrassed, or even ashamed of their speech condition, and joking about it just tells them that their negative feelings are warranted.
If you hear someone else making jokes about someone else’s stutter, speak up, challenge the joke, and explain why it’s inappropriate to joke about someone’s manner of speaking.
When you’re challenging a hurtful joke, be sure not to point out your friend or family member in a way that makes them uncomfortable.
It should be sufficient to say “I don’t see why someone’s speech pattern is funny and I don’t want to hear those kinds of jokes again.”
By showing up for your friend or family member in a meaningful way, they know that they can count on you for support with their stutter.
4. Avoid Finishing Their Sentences
Although it can be tempting to finish your friend or family member’s sentences for them if they’re stuttering, you should avoid doing this.
Don’t interrupt or try to guess what they’re saying.
It can feel disempowering, especially when you get it wrong and they were actually trying to say something different.
At that point, the conversation moves away from their topic and toward you playing 20 questions – that’s no fun for anybody involved.
5. Ask Them How You Can Help
It’s also a good idea to ask the person you know who stutters if there’s anything in particular that you can do to help them.
Making sure that they know you’re there to support them is often the first step.
The list above is just a starting point, and your friend or family member who stutters might have even more ideas that would help.
Book Your Appointment with District Speech Today
If you would like to know more about stuttering and how you can help a friend or family member who stutters, get in touch with us.
We can give you actionable ideas and ways that you can support the speech goals of an important person who stutters in your life.
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